Lost Love CAN Be Found

What an incredibly insightful day. I attended a funeral, for a very close family friends father. I was lucky enough to have met Grandpa Jack, but didn’t have the chance to get to know him. He was a loved by many and was surrounded by many family members when he was laid to rest. The love I was surrounded by was immense and I felt so lucky to be close to this family. I hate to say that a traditional funeral brought back my faith in love, but it did. I was reminded of how special you can be to those around you. Someone can love you so much that losing you or the thought of losing you brings tears to their eyes. When you lose someone whether they die or leave your life, you must grieve. After proper grieving and a true understanding of the situation, you should be perfectly suited to love again- but that doesn’t happen so easily. A lost love leaves emotional holes in your heart; holes that cannot be fixed with surgery or medicine. Holes that have to examined, understood and filled before your soul can be able to love again. Anger and fear act as plugs for these holes that keep them from healing. You cannot control the past, because it already happened- they’re gone. You can only keep your faith and not let it hide behind a very protected, confused and judgmental wall.

Loss causes you to feel alone in the world, searching for something you are unable to find in your current surroundings. You are angry at people for not living up to your expectations. And the second that a potential healer for those holes walks into your life, your plugs of anger and fear jump in to protect you from feeling loss again. It’s easy to find fault in a person when you have holes in your heart. One small circumstance forces you to change your opinion for the worse, because you’re looking at it through a damaged heart and soul. So try and examine and understand why your loss left holes in your heart; it may take time. When you are ready to unplug the anger and fear and break down the protective and judgmental wall, you can open your heart and soul to love to, heal your holes and find love again.